The Army is messing with me.
I am done with this. I am really ready for my dh to retire already. I am very tired of someone else being in charge of our life. I’m trying very hard to retain my zen about it, and not to take it out on my poor dh. Plus, you just never know how the chips will fall. As always, the Army reserves their right to change their mind at any time.
But it’s seriously freaking me out. It looks very much like they are going to keep us here slightly longer than expected. Normally this would be a big yay, we love it here. Only now, they have almost made it impossible for me to finish my degree here. We will stay past the point where I need to transfer to my bachelor’s program, but not stay long enough to actually finish it. It is unlikely that he will be able to get a different assignment here at that point. We will need to PCS.
So either the dutchkid and I will have to stay here alone so I can finish, (oh good, single parenting while finishing a challenging degree program!) or I will have to transfer again, re-audition, and likely re-take another year’s worth of classes. I’m not even sure it’s even worth transferring here in Colorado or if I’d just be wasting my money. I’m also worried that if I don’t transfer right away I will forget all the theory stuff I have worked my butt off to learn (I have to take a transfer exam wherever I go).
It is no wonder that so many Army spouses find it difficult to get a degree. Thankfully, I will at least leave here with an associates, and have the benefit of the classes I have taken in theory, pedagogy and music history. I may have to just teach privately for awhile and hope for the best. It makes me feel like a failure, and it’s not even something I can freaking control.
Thanks a lot, Big Green. I’m so glad that we’ve put in all these years for you to screw with us.
Inconsiderate of them, isn’t it? they DO this – and they have no idea what they are doing to us! That last line – was what I was saying when they were putting us through the “go here, no there, no here” a few months ago.
I’m sorry you are having this spanner thrown in your works, I wish they’d stop doing this to the families they keep telling us they care so much about.
It’s only been four years for us, and I’ve already learned very quickly that, as an organization, the Army doesn’t care anything about dependents. It makes me so angry and sad and frustrated that we’re barely even tolerated, not to mention that we’ve quickly learned the lesson that if my husband wants his career to advance, it’s up to him to take care of that. Even with a good command team, you have to be so careful to look out for yourself or you’ll get looked over. There’s my crabby, cranky, not-so-hooah-right-now mood for you. Maybe I’ll comment again when I’m not so cranky….
Bah. I’m sorry. Intellectually I know that the Army doesn’t stay awake nights thinking up ways to mess with families, but it sure feels like it sometimes. Hugs to you.
That really bites. I hate the not knowing and the change of plans. I am so sorry.
I hear you, friend! Hugs!
I have to applaud you for foregoing the swearing like I did in my frustration post.
For all that the military “supports” spouse education and careers, they sure do make it hard for us to pursue the type of degrees that actually result in careers. *sigh* I had just started seriously considering going back to school for a Dr. of Physical Therapy, but now I’m moving to the middle of nowhere for 3 years. So doing that before having kids is now out. UGH.
But compared, your situation is worse. To have to redo classes, that is just depressing. Paying tuition twice and doing the work twice — double annoying.
They make it so hard because it’s not even like you could make an arrangement to get your husband’s job to accommodate your education, which would be at least a slightly possibility in the civilian world.
So, all that to say I hear ya. I am soooo losing my patience about everything in *our* life being dependent on *his* job. Sigh.