In an interesting turn of events, my dh and I actually sat down last night and talked about adoption (!) And it wasn’t just ME talking about it, it was an actual conversation.
Ok, ok, let me back up because I don’t know that I’ve ever written about the subject here. Ever since our failed FET, I’ve started to feel more and more pulled toward adopting. However, my dh hasn’t felt the same way. I don’t want to get into too many details about why that is, but mostly it’s because an adopted child really caused some heartache in his family.
As time has passed, though, I think it’s sinking in that it is not likely that we will have another biological child. And it really gets to him to think about the dutchkid being an only child. It’s actually been something he mumbles to himself frequently around our house, “She needs a brother or a sister!” (It’s hard for me not to take offense when he says that, although I know very well he doesn’t intend to hurt my feelings).
We aren’t even anywhere near making a decision, or even starting the process. It will likely have to wait until after this next deployment. But the fact that he even talked about it? A huge step. Huge. Honestly I wasn’t sure this day would ever come, I’ve sort of been mentally planning out my future as the mom of one. How is it that one conversation suddenly changes the shape of your future?
As always, you are in our daily prayers. I know it sounds so cliche’, but when God closes a door, He often opens a window.
One conversation can change your future, I know that feeling. Sounds exciting, glad you’re at least talking about it.
My brother is adopted – from Korea. He was 8 and I was 10. He casued our family some heartache too, but I would never want to go back and relive my life without him. I’m glad this door may be opeingi for you.
I’ve always found it’s amazing the things you find yourself coming around to when your reproductive life doesn’t turn out the way you imagined…
Good luck as you discuss your options.
**big hugs**
I’m so happy to hear that there are some new conversations going on in the dutch house. 
We will be praying for you guys. Hoping you will have more good discussions.
A good friend of mine has recently adopted because her and her husband were unable to have more children. The baby is an absolute beauty and has brought more love and tenderness into their home then they could have imagined. I know, I don’t have to convince you–but, your husband will come around. I know he will. xo
So cool that you guys talked about it!
I just want to give you a big hug!
Trust me. I TOTALLY understand how one conversation can change the course of your life. They usually lead to other conversations which may or may not lead to where I find myself today.
If you ever feel the need to reach out and touch a prospective adoptive parent that you’ve never met in real life, you know where to find me.
And, good luck with the upcoming conversations.